Collecting Pebbles

Collecting Pebbles

One of the most common things I hear from survivors of psychological abuse is their confusion about why they didn’t notice the red flags sooner in the relationship. It doesn’t matter if the toxic person is a parent, co-worker, friend or love interest,...
Are We All Narcissists?

Are We All Narcissists?

I am frustrated. I just woke up annoyed. Ever been there? The reason I have a low grade level of aggravation this fine morning is because I find some of the teaching on narcissism to be truly damaging and confusing to survivors. I know that’s not the intent of...
A Measuring Stick of Change

A Measuring Stick of Change

To know me is to know that I have a few favorite sayings. Over the last eight years of chatting with clients in a private practice setting, one of my favorites is that personal growth is like a measuring stick. When we want to make changes in our lives, we are not...