Five Things I’ve Learned This Week – 07/31/13

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Five Things I’ve Learned This Week or Was Reminded Of:

1) The highs and lows in life are very hard to understand but if we can embrace them as the normal cycle of being a human, then maybe we won’t feel falsely reassured during the highs and not as defeated when the lows hit. Whatever cycle we are currently in will change; in both directions and back again and repeat. It’s just life.

2) No one is all good or all evil. There are many shades of colors within people. We get to decide what colors are acceptable to us for those that we do life with in close proximity.

3) People go through emotional growth seasons in their lives and being along side someone, as support, who is changing and morphing into something better can be challenging for us but so well worth the outcome on the other side for those we care about and love.

4) Manage your money and don’t let it manage you. If money feels like it slips through your fingers quickly, write down everything you spend money on in a month. Not a budget. Just write down what was already spent and where. It’s a great first step to managing it better.

5) People may not love us the way we wish but they might be loving us the only way they know how to or are motivated to do. We have to decide if they are able to meet our love needs or not. Never try to insist that people change how they love. It’s an exercise in futility. Just watch and see what they do or don’t do through their own internal motivation. Politely ask for what we need but never demand it because even if it’s done after our demands, it comes with resentment from the giver.

What’s on your list? 

Five Things I’ve Learned This Week – 07/05/13

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Five Things I’ve Learned This Week or Was Reminded Of:

Ok, so just a reminder that this list is comprised of new things I’ve learned or something I knew before but got a refresher. These may be from my own life or while I was observing (aka people watching) the world around me. Not all things on this list will be directly related to MY life but they had an impact on me nonetheless.

1) I am a bigger Star Wars fan than most people know and that probably makes me #1 Nerd of Southlake but I am really ok with that title. Nerds are awesome.

2) I really truly authentically enjoy my work. It’s an incredible blessing and I never take it for granted.

3) Funny how we appreciate things more when we have spent many years not having it; be it relational, material or emotions (like joy, peace or hope).

4) Just because I can make lemonade out of lemons, doesn’t mean I should nor want to park myself in a lemon grove. Some things in life just need to change.

5) Love is good. Just like Charles De Lint said: “There are people who take the heart out of you, and there are people who put it back.” No truer words.

What’s on your list? 

Five Things I’ve Learned This Week – 06/05/13

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Five Things I’ve Learned This Week or Was Reminded Of:

1) Often times we get the “opportunity” to repeat a life lesson we’ve already learned. For example, we figure out how to set boundaries with people who are excessive takers (as opposed to givers) and wouldn’t you know it, here comes another taker so we get to fine tune our boundary skills even better. It may seem annoying but in fact, it’s a blessing to be reminded of how far we have come in our own personal growth. Besides, all excessive takers need to hear no more often.

2) Many kids and teens deal with anxiety and panic attacks. There are ways parents can help their children learn through these experiences so the youth can become more self-contained emotionally. There are also ways parents can hinder their children’s emotional well-being. When in doubt, see a counselor for guidance. Childhood anxiety handled poorly can lead to phobia development that is crippling to the youth’s future.

3) Love that reaches your soul is rare and is to be protected and cherished when it finds you.

4) Just because today may look dark and overwhelming, it doesn’t mean tomorrow will be the same. It is always shocking to me how the emotional conditions can vary from day to day. Hang tight if today is dark and appreciate it if today is bright!

5) Stressed out? Get alone with some good music that is gentle to your spirit. It’s amazing what quiet time will do to change your perspective on things.  Life just comes at all of us much too quickly, so getting away for a bit is a must.

What’s on your list? 

Five Things I’ve Learned This Week – 05/29/13

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Five Things I’ve Learned This Week or Was Reminded Of:

1) Never underestimate the value of personal growth. I have had the privilege of watching people become transformed through gaining insights into why they behave the way they do.  It’s incredibly special to witness.

2) Strong-willed children need adults who will lead without doing damage to their spirits. As Dr. Dobson says in “The New Strong-Willed Child” – appeasement is an invitation to warfare for strong-willed kids. They crave leadership, even while they buck against it.

3) When you love someone, you don’t let go of the relationship easily.  When the dust of an argument settles and you can’t see yourself without that other person, you know it’s not time to walk away.

4) Far too many people “celebrate” Memorial Day as the first day of summer and having a day off from work/school. It’s not about those things though. It’s all about remembering loved ones and friends who died while serving in our military. I wish more people understood this better.

5) There’s nothing like a new car to show you how dated your nine year old car was becoming. I love my new hybrid. I get to earn these little earth symbols while driving. It makes me laugh every time I see a new one pop up.

What’s on your list? 

Five Things I’ve Learned This Week – 05/22/13

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Five Things I’ve Learned This Week or Was Reminded Of:

1) There are some things that happen in life that don’t make sense and can make us question whether God is involved in the daily lives of people. I believe He is and I also have a lot of patience for folks who hear of children being killed by a tornado, while at school, and they wonder if God’s protection is everywhere.  I hope Christians are gracious when people wonder out loud after such a tragedy; it’s normal to wrestle with our faith.

2) I really love my two furry dog children, Harley and Gracie. Anyone who has adored their animals understands what I mean when I call them my furry children.

3) Getting out of our comfort zone is AWESOME! Go do something that you are not too sure about but always wanted to try. Trust me, it’s worth it.

4) I love Spring and seeing flowers in my front yard. All the colors make me happy.

5) You can’t miss someone if you are constantly together. Missing someone is an important emotion not to be overlooked in a relationship.

What’s on your list?