Five Things I’ve Learned This Week or Was Reminded Of:
1) To really understand people, we have to be willing to let go of what we think we know about them so that we can have the ability to see something new. For example: that person who really grates on your nerves? There is a reason for their behaviors and just to annoy you probably isn’t it. Interpreting behaviors correctly is the foundation of being in relationships with all different types of folks.
2) We need to observe how we feel around certain people. Are we relaxed or tense? Do we feel positive about ourselves or does our self-esteem take a hit? Are we hopeful or gloomy? Don’t just assume you feel the same no matter who you are around because that simply isn’t true. People bring out different things in us.
3) Physical pain greatly affects the quality of our lives. If you deal with chronic pain or a temporary situation, be gentle with yourself and set realistic goals for each day. Without the pain, life would feel very different but there’s still a lot of enjoyment to be had even while in physical pain.
4) Giving in to a demand in order to get a controlling person to stop harassing you might be a good band-aid for the moment but only teaches controlling people that their behaviors work and will go unchallenged. Learning to be direct, firm and respectful is a better approach when faced with someone who wants to dominate you and the situation.
5) Our scars, both physical and emotional, make us who we are today; for better or for worse. It’s very true that through adversity we either become better or bitter. Hopefully we have learned life lessons that have grown wisdom and empathy in us. If we are more bitter than we would like to be, there are steps that can be taken to make our life experiences more enriching to us.
What’s on your list?