Five Things I’ve Learned This Week – 09/11/13

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Five Things I’ve Learned This Week or Was Reminded Of:

1) I am not a doctor but I have personally found that caffeine (via too much coffee) caused all over muscle aches and soreness. Crazy I know! But it’s true. So maybe this will serve as a PSA to other achy people: cut down on the caffeine and see if the body aches go away or are at least better. I did actually do some research into this weirdness and there seems to be a scientifically based correlation so I am not just making it up or some placebo effect.

2) Making big changes in life is super scary and causes us to doubt ourselves at almost every turn. Making a list of why we need the changes we do helps us stay focused on the goal(s) and also is a balancing weight to the fears that can be crippling.

3) Great quote that I absolutely love: “Your flaws are perfect for the heart that is meant to love you.” I wish this type of  love for everyone who currently does not have it.

4) As someone else said “Divorce is not a four letter word” It’s true; it is not and yet so often it is treated as such in many religious circles. Is divorce the first option that any married person wishes for? Absolutely not.  It is the sad outcome of a relationship dying and one or both people standing by while life left the body.  I strongly believe that God hates divorce because the marriage failed to reflect His love and the marriage was or became a legal entity, not a spiritual one.

5) I think the Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman is brilliant. I recommend it all the time for people that come in to visit with me; whether married or single. We can be thinking we are acting loving towards our partner but he/she might not see our actions as special because what we are doing is not their love language, but probably ours. I think everyone should do the online quiz at Five Love Languages Quiz and see which one you are.

For the record, my primary love language is Words of Affirmation so speaking nicely to me is how I hear love the best but taking my car for a wash doesn’t really do much for me in the way of expressing love (Acts of Service is another of the five languages). See why this is such a great test?! We could be spinning our wheels thinking we are being loving to our partners but not in the way that means the most to him/her.

What’s on your list? 

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