Five Things I’ve Learned This Week – 09/04/13

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Five Things I’ve Learned This Week or Was Reminded Of:

1) Christians come in a variety of shapes, sizes, colors, ages, marital status, sexual orientations, backgrounds, attitudes, personalities, dispositions, temperaments, views on the Bible and whether it is to be read literally or narratively,  beliefs about evangelism or predestination and on and on. Some Christians dress in a certain way because for them it works and makes them feel closer to God.  Some Christians let a vulgar word fly out of their mouth from time to time. Some Christians have a real problem with most churches for a variety of reasons but are crazy in love with God. Some Christians realize that they are not perfect and really comprehend Grace (yes, with a capital G) and other Christians have yet to fully receive grace (little g) so they are very punitive to other humans around them. I would love it if the Western Church could collectively allow for a variety of expressions of Christianity and stay true to the commandment to love one another.

2) Great quote I saw: ” Unless it’s mad, passionate, extraordinary love, it’s a waste of your time. There are too many mediocre things in life; love shouldn’t be one of them.”  With passion often comes conflict so healthy couples have to learn to work through the rough patches so they can enjoy those other passionate extraordinary times.

3) Like Lenny Kravitz sang “it ain’t over till it’s over.” Relationships take a lot of twists and turns so hang on until you consistently have no desire to hang on anymore. Leaving too soon and regretting it later is heartbreaking and a rough recovery; better to avoid it upfront.

4) Maintaining weight loss is really hard but it’s the litmus test of whether we have made real changes in our lives or merely temporary spurts of positive growth. We often subconsciously sabotage ourselves at certain weights and it’s very important to uncover the reason behind our behaviors. One friend shared that when she got to a certain size, she could hear her very critical and abusive mother shaming her for being too “sexy” when she was younger. My friend had to work through that memory before she could really gain control over her weight. Why do you sabotage yourself after some weight loss success?

5) “Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy” – Proverbs 27:6. We should all be so lucky to have a friend that is willing to give us a kick in the rear when we need it. Don’t be resentful when a trusted friend calls you out on something. He or she is probably right and we secretly know it. Just be careful who you listen to. There are many folks who like to throw out “words from the Lord” like raindrops in April. You know who has your back and who doesn’t though. It’s usually pretty obvious.

What’s on your list? 

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