A Vision of Therapy – by Simeiqi He

“What can therapy do?” This is a question that many people often ask, me included. With a little surfing on the Internet, it is not hard to find out the functions, techniques, or even the “promises” of therapy. However, this blog is not about any of that. Rather, it is about what therapy has the potential to be. It is about my vision of therapy with all its possibilities.

As a newcomer of the field, a Christian theologian/ethicist-in-training, and an immigrant from China, I arrived at the therapist chair from many places. From the first day I sat with clients in the therapy room, I knew that I was standing on Holy ground. I knew the presence of God had come within concrete walls. I knew the stories I heard were sacred. I knew that I was blessed to witness people’s journey of life and walk with them in their courage to heal. Through all the troubles, pain, struggles, and silence my clients bring into the room, when I look at the people sitting in front of me, I see souls that are on the journey of becoming so much more. I cannot help but wonder, maybe therapy should be a work of touching souls. Therapy should be a moment when life’s sacredness is fully realized. Therapy should be a space where one is joined by another and invited to know oneself and the world through the gentle carrying of the past. Therapy is not for the faint of heart, both for the clients and for the therapists.

I believe that the nature of therapy should be and only be about love. When clients and therapists come together, relationships are formed. When one speaks and one listens with the full self, hearts are connected. When one shares one’s self openly and freely with another, freedom is experienced. When suffering is truly acknowledged and joy is truly celebrated, love appears. Therapy is not just about changing lives. It should be about healing souls.

Healing is a path that the courageous travel. It takes more than functions, techniques, or even the “promises” of therapy. What it takes is the Divine love that first spoke the world into being and continues to make everything new. Therefore, the process of healing is holy. And the lives that are in it is sacred. Therapeutic approaches, in all its various forms, do not and cannot have the power to start this process. Before clients come to the therapy room, healing has already begun. Therefore, the nature of therapy should not simply be about tools, skills, approaches that may help clients heal. It should be about the meeting of souls and sharing of relationships between the clients and the therapists. It is finite, because of the meeting between finite beings during one session time. Yet, it should also be beyond our infinitude, because of the divine healing that is at work and the lasting comfort that one is never alone.  Therapy should be a witness to the sacredness of life, the healing of souls, and ultimately, love.

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对心理咨询的设想 by Simeiqi He (A Vision of Therapy)

人们常问“心理咨询是做什么的?”,这我也不例外。在科技如此发达的今天,我们也都知道,只要简单的上网一查,就不难搜出有关心理咨询的作用,方法,甚至是“承诺”。但这并不是此文的目的。此文希望问的问题是:“心理咨询能成为什么?”这是一篇关于我对心理咨询的设想和它的无限可能的文章。

作为一个初出茅庐的心理咨询师,在培训的基督神学和伦理学学者,和中国女性,我对心理咨询的认识是来自多角度的。从第一次与客户在咨询室坐下的那一刻起,我便知道,我所在的地方是神圣之地。我便知道,神的身影已经来到了这四壁之内。我便知道,我所听到的故事是神圣的。我心里清楚,能够见证人们的生命之旅并与他们一起行走在痊愈的道路上是我今生的荣幸。透过客户带入咨询室的所有烦恼,痛苦,挣扎,和沉默,我看着坐在我面前的人时,我看到的不仅仅是一个客户,我看到的更是一颗行走在路上的灵魂。我禁不住想,心理咨询不应仅是一份工作,它更是一次触摸灵魂的劳作。心理咨询应该是这样的——–在此时此处,生命的神圣被充分地意识到;一个人被另一个人真诚得邀请,然后两人一起轻轻得承载过去,用一双新的眼睛来认识自己和周围的世界。从此来讲,心理咨询无论是对于咨询者还是咨询师来说,都不是胆小之人所能胜任的。

我相信心理咨询的本质是且只能是爱。当咨询者和咨询师来到一起的时候,人与人之的关系便形成了。当一个人开口说话,另一个人用全身心倾听的时候,心与心便连在了一起。一个人能够公开得自由得与另一个人吐露自我的时候,便是自由被感知的时候。苦难被真心得承认,喜悦被真心得庆祝的时候,便是爱缓缓浮现的时候。心理咨询为的不光是改变生命。心理咨询为的应该是治愈灵魂。

痊愈是一条属于勇敢之人的道路。它所需要的不仅仅是心理咨询的作用,方法,甚至“承诺”。痊愈真正需要的是神之爱,那创造世界并正在把一切都变成新的的神圣之爱。因此,痊愈的过程是神圣的。正在痊愈的生命也是神圣的。各种各样的心理咨询方法无法,也没有能力来启动痊愈的过程。事实是,在客户来到咨询室之前,痊愈就已经开始。因此,心理咨询的本质并不是它的工具,技巧和方法。心理咨询的本质应该是客户与咨询师之间灵魂的相遇和人与人关系的分享。心理咨询是注定有局限的,因为它发生在两方有限的个体之间,且在短暂的一次相见之时。但因为神圣的痊愈一直都在进行着,因为心理咨询带来的持久安慰时刻提醒着我们没有人是孤独的,心理咨询因此也注定是能超越局限的。最终,心理咨询应该是对生命的神圣,对灵魂的痊愈,和对爱的见证。

Call Simeiqi at 817-897-8882 or email
Simeiqi@southlakecounseling.org