Five Things I’ve Learned This Week – 04/15/14

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Five Things I’ve Learned This Week or Was Reminded Of:

1) Fear makes people say and do things that they otherwise wouldn’t say and do. But words and actions can not be taken away, only repaired.

2) Our childhood experiences impact us in adulthood more than most people probably realize.

3) Laughter with friends is good medicine for the soul.

4) Best quote I saw this week: “Travel is the only thing you buy that makes you richer.” I am ready for some travel adventures!

5) It shouldn’t have been 35 degree this morning and that’s all I have to say about that!

 

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Five Things I’ve Learned This Week – 03/22/14

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Five Things I’ve Learned This Week or Was Reminded Of:

1) The need to change something in our lives does not mean we are a failure. It means that we are brave enough to look at what isn’t working and fix it. Failing is to continue being in denial and pretending something to be true that isn’t.

2) Best quote of the week “Love is simple”

3) Don’t ask for someone’s opinion and then argue with what they tell you. Since you asked, listen to what they have to say and then quietly decide what you believe.

4) Patience in relationships is one of the hardest things to develop. The key is to be keenly aware of why the relationship has value to you. With that in mind, we are not as prone to disposing of the relationship when the tough moments happen – and they will happen.

5) Another great quote: “Everyone comes with baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack.”  What baggage do you need help unpacking? Do you have someone willing to help you or does the person add more baggage?

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Five Things I’ve Learned This Week – 02/26/14

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Five Things I’ve Learned This Week or Was Reminded Of:

1) Authenticity is at the heart of a good friendship.

2) There is a thin line between expressing our care for someone and trying to control them.

3) People face relationship obstacles in one of two ways. They either actively look for solutions to the challenges, with the desire to improve the connection, or they passively feel defeated before they try so they do nothing and become bystanders while the connection unravels.

4) I was reminded what a good book “Leading On Empty” by Wayne Cordeiro really is and if you or someone you know struggles with emotional burnout, buy this book today. It’s life changing.

5) If we want to receive an apology from someone, we must create an environment that is gracious and welcoming to the person to be transparent enough to admit their mistake. We can easily shut out apologies in our life by our own less than stellar responses.

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Five Things I’ve Learned This Week – 02/09/14

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Five Things I’ve Learned This Week or Was Reminded Of:

1) There are seasons in life when we are our only best friend.

2) There is a certain size and/or weight we get to and that’s when we start to sabotage our weight loss goals. More to come on this topic in my next blog post!

3) There needs to be a synergy when spending time with people or getting together is sort of like checking off a To-Do list task. That is not time well spent nor good for anyone’s soul.

4) Best quote: “I always find beauty in things that are odd and imperfect. They are much more interesting.” – Marc Jacobs

5) Good manners goes a long way in creating a loving relationship.

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Five Things I’ve Learned This Week – 01/19/14

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Five Things I’ve Learned This Week or Was Reminded Of:

1) Loving someone “unconditionally” doesn’t mean enabling (aka encouraging) bad behavior. Unconditional love is being supportive while people deal with their character defects.

2) Quote of the week: “The best feeling is when someone appreciates everything about you that someone else took for granted.”

3) It is good to be aware of who and what triggers emotional reactions in us. Walking around blindly not aware is dangerous to our well-being. How will we know when someone is unhealthy for us if we are not paying attention?

4) I love the holidays but I am glad they are over too. I don’t think I am alone in this feeling.

5) As we age and mature, it is normal that we get wiser and have sharper radar for picking people to be in relationships with; so be forgiving of yourself  regarding choices made in the past that don’t work for you today. That’s actually a sign of personal growth in you. Celebrate it!

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